I'm so bad at telling stories but I really need honest opinions. Cuz me and my friends are being delusional A LOT so I need some people to tell me if this woman I have A HUGE crush on is being flirty or just friendly (which would drive me so sadš)
Okay so she's a customer who comes often where i work.
She always takes the same thing so I remember what she takes everytime. She's so happy about it.
One day she came and I wasn't here but my sister was (she works with me) and she said "sorry I don't know your recipe like my coworker does, by the way she's gonna be so sad you came when she wasn't here" and then my crush said "aww give her kisses for me"
Then she came in again when I wasn't here and when my sister was and then she told her how much I loved the kisses lmaoo.
And since then she's been opening a lot to me.
She came in again and this time I was here, somebody just dropped her off and she told me it was her mom (like if I needed to know it wasn't somebody else, or is it just me making scenarios idk lmao) then asked me about my week end and said "oh maybe this is too personal" I joked saying it was and then told her it wasn't.
She asked me what I did for Halloween and I told her I watched jennifers body with my sis and she told me about her week end too. And coming at the end of the service, she told me "you're perfect"
SHE TOLD ME I AM PERFECT
Then she came again on a Monday afternoon and was wearing this pretty grandpa sweater and I told her I loved it. Then we talked a lot, she said how much she loved video games, she also told me about her week end with her brother and nephew.
We both play hogwarts legacy and she's a slytherin while I am a hufflepuff :)
She told me she loooves winter.
Then she asked me about smth that happened The last time she came. She wanted to use the points on her loyalty card but it didn't work but she'd left already so I paid for her.
I didn't mind cuz it was her and that she's nice yk. But she told me that she saw all of her points were still on her loyalty card and didn't know why it didn't work out. I had to tell her it didn't work and then she wanted to pay. I said she didn't have to cuz it had been taken care of. She insisted to know how so I had to tell her I paid for it
To thank me she bought me a huge bag of chocolate.
A few weeks ago, she told me I could be unformal with her. In france when you're being formal you say "vous" and when you're close to someone you say "tu"
She told me I could say "tu"!!!!
My sis told me I should get her smth for Christmas, which I did, I got her a slytherin pen and wrote a note saying "to the best of the slytherins and to my fave customer, merry christmas" and then signed with my name
Then she came in again I wasn't here still š but my sis gave her the gift and she was so happy she couldn't stop saying how much cute it was.
She came in today and gave a gift for the whole team and also one for me š¤
She got me a little box with a mug and a maneki neko (lucky cat) hot water bottle.
And then told my sister she would bring her one too.
With the gift she gave me she wrote a note saying : "Hey [my name], I wish you a very happy christmas! I hope this gift will bring you luck :) Thank you for your kindness and your good mood ! "
She's not being flirty at all in her note š
And as you know this last friday was valentines day, and my friends told me I definitely should tell her how I feel about her.
So I made her a bouquet of flowers (fake ones that I made myself), and wrote a note saying
"Hey [her name]
Here's a little bouquet of flowers, made with joy, to wish you a lovely Valentine's Day :)
I wanted to tell you that I find you very pleasant as a person.
And I'd love to get to know you more.
Looking forward to seeing you again, I'm leaving you my contact info:
[My phone number]
Then I signed it with my name"
When she came in, there were A LOOOOOT of customers around and I was afraid to give it to her cuz of them, but I still did.
She said she was sorry cuz she had nothing for me and she was surprised I made the flowers myself š she kept on saying "thank you so much" but for a second I felt like she wanted to say something, but didn't cuz people were around yk.
Its been a day, and I know lots of people will tell me it's not that long, but it's the first time I'm doing this for someone and that day feels like a whole year.
She didn't text me and I don't know if she will.
I just hope I didn't make her feel uncomfortable. I really hope so :(
What do you think will happen next?
I'm overthinking everything and I'm so scared, what if she doesn't come back to the store because of me??
I (f) am a teen who needed some extra money but didnāt have it. So I found this sketchy guy on an app who said he would click my temu link for me so i could get the free items i desperately needed. But in return he asked for nud3$ and i sent them because he was scary and threatened me. But now he texted me again so I tried to act like he had the wrong person but he didnāt believe me. So i acted as if i was my older brother and that it was my phone but he didnāt believe me. Now he said heās going to do something to me and I donāt know what to do.
Hello all, I just wanted to update you guys on my current situation as of now I donāt know how to tag old posts, but I think you can look at it through my profile. Anyways hereās my current update- me and my brother have found an apartment and should be moving in between 2-3 weeks from now, one of our old work friends is selling us a car so we can pack up some of our belongings in and leave. My current dilemma is the feeling of guilt I still love my Mother and my Stepfather even after the stuff he put me and my brother through, I feel bad for leaving them and feel as if Iām doing something bad in a sense that all my life Iāve been told āFamily sticks Togetherā and things of the sort but I honestly canāt take it anymore. I hate the feeling of being scared when i wake up, past experiences still being brought up in conversations, etc. Although with these thoughts in mind, I still feel as though Iām losing something important. I want things to end amicable and go on our ways while still being together, but from the saying my step-father has said and me knowing his thought process it makes me feel as if when me and my brother leave thatās gonna be the end of it. Itās just gonna be me and my brother, not being able to see my mother anymore, not being able to see my dogs anymore, not being able to see my step-siblings anymore. I just need advice on how I should view this, it feels like a heavy weight is on my heart on how I should feel about this. Am I wrong? I just need advise.
# Major Order Complete
ATTENTION CRIMSON VANGUARD
The Impossible was breached and more to come awaits us.
New Major Order
Mission: Unstoppable
The Meridian Black Hole carves a devastating path of destruction across our galaxy. The first to fall was Angel's Venture, a majestic peaceful planet not unlike our own Crimsica. How many mores Worlds need to fall before we end the fascist regime of the Sqi'th?
We must not let them continue to destroy the lives of Super Earth citizens.
Goal: Prevent the Illuminate from gathering Dark Fluid
ATTENTION THIS MAJOR ORDER WILL NOT END UNTIL ALL PLANETS ARE SAFE FROM THE MERIDIAN BLACK HOLE
This is my BAFTA Predictions. I think the Brutalist can win 7 BAFTA awards just like Oppenheimer, All Quiet On The Western Front, 1917, The Artist, & Slumdog Millionaire. And for lead actress, i actually think Moore is sweeping and Brody for lead actor as well expect SAG. SaldaƱa is sweeping too. Also i know Culkin is sweeping. But there's a chance that Pearce can still win BAFTA. If he wins, then he could win the Oscar even though he didn't get the SAG nomination. As for Anora I think it's gonna win a few categories for the BAFTAs even though it won PGA & DGA. I still think if Corbet wins Director, we have a race and could still win Oscar. I think Brutalist still wins Best Film because it's loved by the UK and the internationals. So we will see soon.
Check out my predictions
BEST FILM: The Brutalist
BEST DIRECTOR: Brady Corbet
BEST ACTOR: Adrien Brody
BEST ACTRESS: Demi Moore
BEST SUPPORTING ACTOR: Guy Pearce
BEST SUPPORTING ACTRESS: Zoe Saldana
BEST ORIGINAL SCREENPLAY: Anora
BEST ADAPTED SCREENPLAY: Conclave
BEST BRITISH FILM: Conclave
BEST BRITISH DEBUT: Kneecap
BEST NON ENGLISH FILM: Emilia Perez
BEST DOCUMENTARY: No Other Land
BEST ANIMATED FILM: Flow
BEST CASTING: Anora
BEST CINEMATOGRAPHY: The Brutalist
BEST EDITING: Anora
BEST PRODUCTION DESIGN: The Brutalist
BEST COSTUME DESIGN: Conclave
BEST MAKEUP AND HAIR: The Substance
BEST ORIGINAL SCORE: The Brutalist
BEST SOUND: Dune Part Two
BEST VISUAL EFFECTS: Dune Part Two
BEST CHILDREN FILM: Wallace & Gromt Fowl
RISING STAR AWARD: Mikey Madison
I have one ticket for the Martin Garrix Holi concert at DY Patil. If anyone is looking for a ticket, feel free to DM me.
Iāll be going alone, so if youāre also attending solo and want to join me, youāre welcome! Letās enjoy the concert together.
hey yāall, are there any starkid fans on here based in australia?? in the city where i live, there is absolutely no starkid fans whatsoever, but a lot of theatre kids. and i have no one to geek out to about it lmao. help me out!
**1. Your home equity is a gold-mine. If you need cash, stop taking out high-interest loans.**
So many people take out high-interest payday loans ā please donāt do this. If you get into trouble you can typically get a relatively low-interest HELOC (a home equity line of credit).
Essentially with a HELOC, youāre borrowing against the equity you have in your house and use it for whatever you need (much like a credit card).
Typically, youāll get lower interest rates and more flexible repayment terms compared to traditional loans.
Hereās a calculator you can use to see how much/little you could borrow ([link here](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=lt-home&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st)).
Side note: if you hate debt, you can still get money out of your homeās equity by using something like [Hometap](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=hometap&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st), where you more or less sell investors a portion of your equity without a loan)
**2. Switch auto insurance companies every 6-12 months.**
If you havenāt compared auto insurance rates in the last 6 months, youāre probably overspending (on average by \~$400/year[Ā¹](https://betterbuck.net/content/heres-how-much-youre-actually-overpaying-for-car-insurance/?subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1028-New-HELOC1st-Source)).
Example: I cut my car insurance bill by \~$1,300 this year by switching carriers (same exact coverage too) and it took me a whopping 5 minutes.
Take two minutes and pull up a comparison site (I used [Coverage.com](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=bankrate&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st), [Auto-Savings.com](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=otto&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st) is fine too) and compare multiple offers from different companies in one go.
Worst case scenario: you stay with what youāve got. Best case scenario: you save a few hundred dollars a year.Hereās a link to a good comparison site:[ link](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=bankrate&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st).
**3. Try and find the best price online.**
Big stores like Amazon know that no one has time to price shop through dozens of sites, so thereās often no incentive for them to offer bargain prices.
I typically hate browser extensions with a fiery passion, but Capital One Shopping has always worked well for me and I'd recommend trying it ([link here](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=capitalone2&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st)).
When you shop online (on Amazon or elsewhere) it will automatically compare prices for you, and auto-apply coupon codes when possible.
**4. Get yourself a dang advisor.**
Most people are under the false impression that financial advisors are just for wealthy people.
They absolutely arenāt: if you have a net worth of $100k+, you can typically qualify for an advisor. Having an advisor typically increases your yearly returns by 3%[Ā¹](https://corporate.vanguard.com/content/dam/corp/articles/pdf/putting_value_on_your_value_quantifying_vanguard_advisors_alpha.pdf) (mostly due to smarter tax planning)
If you donāt have an advisor in your family, use a site like [WiserAdvisor](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=wiser&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st) or [Zoe Financial](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=zoe&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st) to find somebody with good reviews in your area.
**5. You don't have to pay off your debt by yourself.**
Very few people know about it, but If you have $10k+ in debt, you can technically ask a debt relief to come in and take over the process for you.
Itāll typically save you 23% off your total debt, after fees (according to NDR, a big debt relief company).
Theyāll negotiate with your creditors and try to get your debt reduced (then they take a cut of the savings).
Typically people who are struggling with debt save 23% on avg. when they ask for help from debt relief companies.
Hereās a little calculator you can use to see how much youād potentially save: [link](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=ndr2&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st)).
**6. Save on home insurance.**
Some homeowners save $1k+/year just by switching home insurance providers (typically saving them more than changing auto insurance policies).
If itās been over a year since youāve reviewed your rates, it might be worth taking a few minutes to compare offers. Hereās a home insurance comparison site Iāve used: ([link](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=bankrate-home&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st)).
**1. Your home equity is a gold-mine. If you need cash, stop taking out high-interest loans.**
So many people take out high-interest payday loans ā please donāt do this. If you get into trouble you can typically get a relatively low-interest HELOC (a home equity line of credit).
Essentially with a HELOC, youāre borrowing against the equity you have in your house and use it for whatever you need (much like a credit card).
Typically, youāll get lower interest rates and more flexible repayment terms compared to traditional loans.
Hereās a calculator you can use to see how much/little you could borrow ([link here](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=lt-home&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st)).
Side note: if you hate debt, you can still get money out of your homeās equity by using something like [Hometap](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=hometap&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st), where you more or less sell investors a portion of your equity without a loan)
**2. Switch auto insurance companies every 6-12 months.**
If you havenāt compared auto insurance rates in the last 6 months, youāre probably overspending (on average by \~$400/year[Ā¹](https://betterbuck.net/content/heres-how-much-youre-actually-overpaying-for-car-insurance/?subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1028-New-HELOC1st-Source)).
Example: I cut my car insurance bill by \~$1,300 this year by switching carriers (same exact coverage too) and it took me a whopping 5 minutes.
Take two minutes and pull up a comparison site (I used [Coverage.com](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=bankrate&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st), [Auto-Savings.com](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=otto&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st) is fine too) and compare multiple offers from different companies in one go.
Worst case scenario: you stay with what youāve got. Best case scenario: you save a few hundred dollars a year.Hereās a link to a good comparison site:[ link](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=bankrate&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st).
**3. Try and find the best price online.**
Big stores like Amazon know that no one has time to price shop through dozens of sites, so thereās often no incentive for them to offer bargain prices.
I typically hate browser extensions with a fiery passion, but Capital One Shopping has always worked well for me and I'd recommend trying it ([link here](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=capitalone2&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st)).
When you shop online (on Amazon or elsewhere) it will automatically compare prices for you, and auto-apply coupon codes when possible.
**4. Get yourself a dang advisor.**
Most people are under the false impression that financial advisors are just for wealthy people.
They absolutely arenāt: if you have a net worth of $100k+, you can typically qualify for an advisor. Having an advisor typically increases your yearly returns by 3%[Ā¹](https://corporate.vanguard.com/content/dam/corp/articles/pdf/putting_value_on_your_value_quantifying_vanguard_advisors_alpha.pdf) (mostly due to smarter tax planning)
If you donāt have an advisor in your family, use a site like [WiserAdvisor](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=wiser&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st) or [Zoe Financial](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=zoe&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st) to find somebody with good reviews in your area.
**5. You don't have to pay off your debt by yourself.**
Very few people know about it, but If you have $10k+ in debt, you can technically ask a debt relief to come in and take over the process for you.
Itāll typically save you 23% off your total debt, after fees (according to NDR, a big debt relief company).
Theyāll negotiate with your creditors and try to get your debt reduced (then they take a cut of the savings).
Typically people who are struggling with debt save 23% on avg. when they ask for help from debt relief companies.
Hereās a little calculator you can use to see how much youād potentially save: [link](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=ndr2&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st)).
**6. Save on home insurance.**
Some homeowners save $1k+/year just by switching home insurance providers (typically saving them more than changing auto insurance policies).
If itās been over a year since youāve reviewed your rates, it might be worth taking a few minutes to compare offers. Hereās a home insurance comparison site Iāve used: ([link](https://betterbuck.net/view-nb.php?offer=bankrate-home&country=USA&subid=Red-Big-Mistakes-Homeowners-D2D-1029-Dekstop-HELOC1st)).
Nostalgia, a bittersweet emotional state evoked by recalling the past, is more than a fleeting sentimentāit orchestrates a complex neural symphony. This expanded exploration delves into the brain's intricate dance during nostalgic experiences, connects these processes to related phenomena like ASMR and psychogenic shivers, and examines their implications for identity and mental health.
# Neural Mechanisms of Nostalgia: A Regional Spotlight
1. **Hippocampus: The Archivist of Memory** The hippocampus, critical for encoding and retrieving episodic memories, acts as a bridge between past and present. During nostalgia, it reconstructs vivid scenes from personal history, such as the scent of a childhood home. Neuroimaging studies show heightened hippocampal activity when individuals engage with nostalgic stimuli (e.g., old photos), facilitating the temporal binding of emotions and events.
2. **Amygdala: The Emotional Amplifier** The amygdala infuses memories with emotional resonance. Nostalgia often triggers positive valence, activating the amygdala to enhance the salience of these recollections. This interplay explains why nostalgic moments feel intensely meaningful, even when mundane.
3. **Striatum and Nucleus Accumbens: The Reward Circuitry** The striatum, particularly the nucleus accumbens, releases dopamine during nostalgic reflection, linking past joy to present reward. This dopaminergic surge reinforces nostalgiaās comforting pull, akin to the pleasure of social bonding or creative achievement.
4. **Default Mode Network (DMN): The Self in Reflection** The DMN, including the medial prefrontal cortex and posterior cingulate cortex, activates during restful introspection. Nostalgia engages this network, enabling individuals to weave personal memories into a coherent life narrative, fostering self-continuity and identity cohesion.
# Neurotransmitters: The Chemical Ensemble
* **Dopamine**: Beyond pleasure, dopamine motivates the pursuit of emotionally rewarding memories, creating a feedback loop that encourages nostalgic reflection. This may explain why people revisit nostalgic content during stress.
* **Oxytocin**: Often oversimplified as the "love hormone," oxytocinās role in nostalgia underscores social connectedness. It enhances feelings of trust, making memories of loved ones feel more vivid and comforting.
* **Serotonin**: By stabilizing mood, serotonin contributes to nostalgiaās therapeutic effect. Lower serotonin levels in depression may explain reduced nostalgic engagement in such states.
# Memory Dynamics: Reconstruction and Identity
* **Episodic vs. Semantic Memory**: Nostalgia blends episodic details (e.g., a graduation day) with semantic knowledge (e.g., cultural milestones of an era). This fusion enriches the nostalgic experience, embedding individual stories within broader social contexts.
* **Memory Reconsolidation**: Each nostalgic recall subtly alters memories, influenced by present emotions. For example, a difficult period may be remembered more fondly over time, a phenomenon termed "rosy retrospection."
* **Narrative Identity**: Dan McAdamsā theory posits that nostalgia helps construct a life story, integrating past selves into a unified identity. This narrative function is therapeutic, offering continuity during life transitions.
# Nostalgiaās Relatives: ASMR and Psychogenic Shivers
1. **ASMR (Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response)** ASMR, characterized by tingling sensations triggered by whispers or tactile sounds, shares neural ground with nostalgia. Both:
* **Activate the DMN**, suggesting introspective focus.
* **Release oxytocin and dopamine**, fostering relaxation and reward.
* **Depend on personal triggers**, like childhood sounds (e.g., rustling pages of a favorite book).
2. **Psychogenic Shivers (Frisson)** Frisson, the chills from music or awe-inspiring moments, involves:
* **Striatal activation**, similar to nostalgic reward processing.
* **Emotional peaks**, linked to amygdala engagement.
* **Cross-cultural prevalence**, indicating an evolutionary basis for emotional resonance.
**Shared Pathways**: Both phenomena, like nostalgia, may engage the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting calm. However, ASMR is sustained and soothing, while frisson is acute and arousal-driven.
# Neuroplasticity and Therapeutic Potential
Repeated nostalgic engagement can strengthen pathways associated with positive affect, offering resilience against stress. Clinically, nostalgia therapy is explored for:
* **Depression**: Reconnecting patients with positive past experiences to counteract negative bias.
* **Dementia**: Using multisensory cues (e.g., music) to evoke autobiographical memories, slowing cognitive decline.
* **Loneliness**: Enhancing social connectedness through virtual nostalgia (e.g., VR recreations of meaningful places).
# Cultural and Individual Variability
* **Cultural Nostalgia**: Collectivist cultures may emphasize communal memories (e.g., family gatherings), while individualist cultures focus on personal milestones. Similarly, ASMR triggers varyāJapanese "mukbang" (eating sounds) vs. Western role-play videos.
* **Age Differences**: Nostalgia peaks in young adulthood and late life, serving identity formation and ego integrity, respectively.
# Conclusion: The Past as a Neural Sanctuary
Nostalgia, ASMR, and frisson reveal the brainās remarkable ability to mine the past for emotional sustenance. By understanding their neural underpinnings, we harness their power for mental well-being, identity cohesion, and cross-cultural connection. Future research could explore genetic influences on nostalgic susceptibility or develop biofeedback tools to modulate these states therapeutically. In a rapidly changing world, these phenomena remind us that the past is not staticāitās a dynamic neural resource, ever-ready to comfort and inspire.
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Someone fully plans on wearing thisā¦ is this okay or too white? Not said anything too them